The fact that I “have” anxiety does not make me a failure at being a human. And I don’t “have” anxiety because of some personal failing. Anxiety is just a part of me–a part of everyone, really. The goal has never been to eliminate it completely, but to learn to manage and tolerate it. Continue reading CBT DIARIES | Sessions 8-12: Life After CBT
The magic started to happen this week, because after learning about cognitive distortions, the real goal is to challenge those distortions with a more realistic thought process.
Countering a distortion involves asking healthier, more realistic questions to help pull you away from the brain bully’s toxic thought-vortex. Continue reading CBT Diaries | Session 3: F*ck you, brain bully!
How many of us measure our worth by the number on the scale? The lower the number, the higher your value! If the number is lower than you expect, then you get to be accordingly happy today. If it’s higher… you’d better berate yourself for being a bad disciple of diet doctrine. Continue reading WORTH MY WEIGHT | Toxic Diet Culture
“Everyone feels anxious sometimes.” This is something I’ve heard a lot since opening up about having social anxiety. In most cases, the comment is well-meant, with the goal of reassuring me that I’m not “crazy,” because after all everyone feels … Continue reading TOXIC ANXIETY POISON / Doesn’t everyone have anxiety?
It’s been a big week. The response I’ve gotten to my two previous posts has been profoundly eye-opening for me. It’s shown me that if you are willing to open up, be vulnerable, and drop your mask, you’ll be stunned … Continue reading ROCK THE BLUSH / You can’t move past something that you can’t even talk about
The strange thing about my anxiety—let me rephrase that. The strangest thing about my social anxiety is that I have no qualms discussing it openly. I’m actually really driven to write about it. Maybe this makes sense from a psychological perspective, I … Continue reading THE JOURNEY BEGINS / You can’t just berate yourself out of anxiety
It’s okay not to be liked by everyone. Your 32-year-old self is a people pleaser. Not by choice, but by an overpowering urge to keep the peace and avoid conflict. You will come to think of yourself as a chameleon. When you read the children’s story The Mixed-Up Chameleon by Eric Carle, you’ll feel like it was written about you. Except that even the chameleon in the story has more self-confidence than you do, because he actually says things like, “I want to be…” whereas you cannot stop yourself from changing to blend in with your surroundings. Continue reading YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH / An Open Letter To My Younger Self