The fact that I “have” anxiety does not make me a failure at being a human. And I don’t “have” anxiety because of some personal failing. Anxiety is just a part of me–a part of everyone, really. The goal has never been to eliminate it completely, but to learn to manage and tolerate it. Continue reading CBT DIARIES | Sessions 8-12: Life After CBT
You are fire.
You are grit.
The world is better
because you’re in it.
Continue reading INTERLUDE: Fire & Grit
This is a hard post to write.
The topics I’ve been reading about this week, and the terms I’ve been learning, paint a picture of where this post is going. Eating disorders. Orthorexia. Subjective binge eating. Social anxiety. Comorbidity. Continue reading THE PLOT THICKENS | This is hard to talk about…
If you’ve been following my CBT Diaries series, then you may remember that there’s a cognitive distortion called “catastrophizing.” In a nutshell, it means predicting that some “worst case scenario” cascade of events will occur in a given situation.
Most of the time, the worst case scenario doesn’t happen.
Everyone has moments of wonky thinking. What is life if not a collection of subjective experiences? But people with social anxiety disorder (SAD) can be practically drowning in distortions (me) and this affects their well-being and mental health. And in the case of SAD, these distortions usually focus on our performance or what people think of us. Continue reading CBT Diaries | Session 2: Cognitive distortions
Cognitive behavioural therapy, or CBT, is a type of therapy that focuses on reframing the way you think. You learn to catch those kneejerk negative thoughts and redirect them into a healthier and more positive direction.
CBT is the gold standard for the treatment of anxiety disorders.
And what’s even better than CBT for the treatment of social anxiety (my primary struggle at the moment)? CBT in a group setting. Continue reading CBT DIARIES | Session 1: You’re not alone
“Everyone feels anxious sometimes.” This is something I’ve heard a lot since opening up about having social anxiety. In most cases, the comment is well-meant, with the goal of reassuring me that I’m not “crazy,” because after all everyone feels … Continue reading TOXIC ANXIETY POISON / Doesn’t everyone have anxiety?
It’s been a big week. The response I’ve gotten to my two previous posts has been profoundly eye-opening for me. It’s shown me that if you are willing to open up, be vulnerable, and drop your mask, you’ll be stunned … Continue reading ROCK THE BLUSH / You can’t move past something that you can’t even talk about
The strange thing about my anxiety—let me rephrase that. The strangest thing about my social anxiety is that I have no qualms discussing it openly. I’m actually really driven to write about it. Maybe this makes sense from a psychological perspective, I … Continue reading THE JOURNEY BEGINS / You can’t just berate yourself out of anxiety
It’s okay not to be liked by everyone. Your 32-year-old self is a people pleaser. Not by choice, but by an overpowering urge to keep the peace and avoid conflict. You will come to think of yourself as a chameleon. When you read the children’s story The Mixed-Up Chameleon by Eric Carle, you’ll feel like it was written about you. Except that even the chameleon in the story has more self-confidence than you do, because he actually says things like, “I want to be…” whereas you cannot stop yourself from changing to blend in with your surroundings. Continue reading YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH / An Open Letter To My Younger Self