The fact that I “have” anxiety does not make me a failure at being a human. And I don’t “have” anxiety because of some personal failing. Anxiety is just a part of me–a part of everyone, really. The goal has never been to eliminate it completely, but to learn to manage and tolerate it. Continue reading CBT DIARIES | Sessions 8-12: Life After CBT
I kept thinking, I *actually* have social anxiety. It isn’t just a fluke that I’m here, or some intellectual exercise, as I’ve been approaching it. I thought I was further along than this… Continue reading CBT DIARIES | Sessions 5-7: It’s Actually Hard Now…
Basically, if you’re willing to have a standoff with your anxiety, it will eventually fall asleep, unlike the preschooler who tried to engage me in conversation all last night. He won that battle. But I can win the war on anxiety. Continue reading CBT DIARIES | Session 4: Exposure Therapy Begins (aka DO NOT WANT)
This is a hard post to write.
The topics I’ve been reading about this week, and the terms I’ve been learning, paint a picture of where this post is going. Eating disorders. Orthorexia. Subjective binge eating. Social anxiety. Comorbidity. Continue reading THE PLOT THICKENS | This is hard to talk about…
The magic started to happen this week, because after learning about cognitive distortions, the real goal is to challenge those distortions with a more realistic thought process.
Countering a distortion involves asking healthier, more realistic questions to help pull you away from the brain bully’s toxic thought-vortex. Continue reading CBT Diaries | Session 3: F*ck you, brain bully!
Everyone has moments of wonky thinking. What is life if not a collection of subjective experiences? But people with social anxiety disorder (SAD) can be practically drowning in distortions (me) and this affects their well-being and mental health. And in the case of SAD, these distortions usually focus on our performance or what people think of us. Continue reading CBT Diaries | Session 2: Cognitive distortions
It’s been a big week. The response I’ve gotten to my two previous posts has been profoundly eye-opening for me. It’s shown me that if you are willing to open up, be vulnerable, and drop your mask, you’ll be stunned … Continue reading ROCK THE BLUSH / You can’t move past something that you can’t even talk about
It’s okay not to be liked by everyone. Your 32-year-old self is a people pleaser. Not by choice, but by an overpowering urge to keep the peace and avoid conflict. You will come to think of yourself as a chameleon. When you read the children’s story The Mixed-Up Chameleon by Eric Carle, you’ll feel like it was written about you. Except that even the chameleon in the story has more self-confidence than you do, because he actually says things like, “I want to be…” whereas you cannot stop yourself from changing to blend in with your surroundings. Continue reading YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH / An Open Letter To My Younger Self