About Me

Hello, you lovely creature.

My name is Sadie.

aka Blushy Ginger

I’m a mom to two little ones. James is 5 and Olivia is 3. I talk about them quite a bit on here.

I also talk about my husband, Jesse, who is my biggest supporter (even though you won’t see him in the comments!).

i write about
  • Social anxiety disorder
  • Perfectionism
  • Body image
  • Motherhood & marriage

Pass the coffee. No, no. The whole pot, please.

Me, every morning.

Read more below!


More about me

My sweet family: Jesse (my husband), James (age 5), and Olivia (age 3)

Growing up shy

Me at… 16? The morning after a sleepover at my bestie’s house, one of the few people I can always be my messy self with.

I’ve always been shy. As a teen, I used to call myself “cripplingly shy.” My dream was to become “functionally shy.”

In 2018, I was diagnosed with severe social anxiety disorder, as well as generalized anxiety disorder, perfectionism, and depression. I was 32 years old at the time, and my kids were very little. It was a hard time, but also a turning point.

This blog started as a place for me to write about my cognitive-behavioural group therapy for social anxiety.

Side note: Not everyone who is shy has social anxiety, and not everyone who has social anxiety is shy. I wrote a post on this topic here.

my recovery

2019. Singing my maid-of-honour toast at my bestie’s weddingClick here for the story (and video) on this! It’s one of my proudest moments.
Photo by MP Photography.

In 2019, I had a breakthrough in therapy (psychodynamic psychotherapy by this point).

A knot was finally loosening inside me, and I was starting to become okay with myself as a person. To berate myself a little less for my “inadequacies” as a mother. To become more self-compassionate and self-accepting.

I don’t have sunshine all day every day, but I’ve come so far since the time in my life when the skies were completely overcast. 


My mission

I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about my Why.

I want to share what I have learned (and am still learning) about how to navigate life and parenting if you struggle with mental health issues and self-acceptance.

I’m not an expert. Not at parenting and not at mental health. I’m just an empathetic overthinker who likes to write candidly about this stuff.

I hope that my story can help you along your journey in some small way.

Where next?


Thanks for reading!

Feel free to introduce yourself

(and your blog, if you have one)

in the comments below!


6 thoughts on “About Me

  1. Hi Sadie,
    I discovered your blog pretty late at night when looking for something to read before trying to switch off to sleep, and I just want to say that it’s so beautiful – visually and writing-wise. I’m really looking forward to delving further in at a reasonable hour of the day! It’s lovely to see a blog here that you’re clearly so passionate about (did I mention that I love the design?!).
    My name’s Becky, I’m a uni student who’s always struggled with feelings of “shyness” and struggled to find my place or voice in social situations. I’ve also been recently diagnosed with anxiety and depression (yay!) which explain a lot of how I felt when I was a teen, struggling to get through each day without my emotions spiralling out of control. On my blog https://writingthewaytohappiness.wordpress.com/ I write about a range of topics: self-help, writing, languages, my pet chickens and lots more. I mostly just aim to write wholesome content which feels relevant to whatever’s going on in my life that week.

    Becky xx

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    1. Becky!!! You have no idea how much I appreciate your comment, *especially* tonight. It’s been a tough day full of self-doubt and blog-doubt and Instagram-doubt, so seeing a comment like this come in was unbelievably soothing.

      I’m SO happy you like the design!!! I spend probably way too much time on the visuals, but I just find it fun and pretty.

      Also your backstory is super relatable. I think a lot of us don’t know what to call what we’re going through, so we default to words like shy or sad or emotional. Which are valid words of course, just not always the full picture.

      Anyway, I’m so happy you found me! I’m going to go check out your blog now. I’m curious about these chickens.

      If you’re on Instagram, we can connect there too! I’m @blushyginger 🙂

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      1. I’m so glad that this post managed to help you feel a bit better on a bad day!

        Can you spend too much time on visuals…? (I’m sure you can, but it’s definitely paid off!)

        I definitely agree. Sometimes I’ve gotten so sick of people labelling me as “shy” as if that’s the only quality I have about me – it’s just a tiny aspect of a whole person, with so much more to them than struggling to speak up, I believe.

        Thank you! Haha I’m a little obsessed with my chickens. I’ll check you out on Instagram

        Becky x

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        1. Yay, thank you for finding me on Instagram!

          And I appreciate your enthusiam for visuals hehe

          Totally with you on the shy labelling thing. There’s a great account on Instagram called I Am Shy and Mighty — she talks about actual shyness.

          Accounts like hers help me to male some space between shyness and social anxiety in my mind, even though there’s definitely some entanglement between the two.

          Happy Sunday night 🙂

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  2. Hi Sadie,
    As I mentioned somewhere else, I just discovered your blog and I agree with so much of what you say. All my life, people called me ‘shy’ and I wanted to say, “No, I’m not!” But how could I do that when my ‘shyness’ seemed obvious to them? When I found out about social anxiety, it began to make sense – at least to me. But I wanted everyone to understand – not just about me, but about all of us. So I wrote a book, which was published three years ago and has just been republished. The book contains a wide variety of opinions from anonymous contributors, and has helped those who’ve read it. Now, I’m torn between not wanting to use your site for advertising and my passion to raise awareness of social anxiety.

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