Recovery Is Not About “Getting Over Your Issues”

I used to think that if I could just “get over my issues,” I would be happy.

๐๐ฎ๐ญ ๐ญ๐ก๐š๐ญ’๐ฌ ๐ฃ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ญ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž “๐ก๐š๐ฉ๐ฉ๐ข๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ž๐ฏ๐ž๐ซ ๐š๐Ÿ๐ญ๐ž๐ซ” ๐ฆ๐ฒ๐ญ๐ก ๐ข๐ง ๐š ๐๐ข๐Ÿ๐Ÿ๐ž๐ซ๐ž๐ง๐ญ ๐Ÿ๐จ๐ซ๐ฆ. โฃโ € โฃโ €

Plus, my interpretation of ๐˜จ๐˜ฆ๐˜ต๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ท๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ ๐˜ฎ๐˜บ ๐˜ช๐˜ด๐˜ด๐˜ถ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด looked like stuffing them down inside and ploughing ahead, hiding my limping mental health. โฃโ € โฃ

I say ๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ฎ๐˜ฑ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ because if I had *actually* been limping physically, I would have stopped to rest and assess. โฃโ € โฃโ €

Not so with mental health. โฃโ € โฃ

Today, I no longer think it’s ๐˜ฆ๐˜ช๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ/๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ. It’s not “either you have issues, ๐จ๐ซ you are happy.” It’s not “either you get over your issues, ๐จ๐ซ you remain unhappy.”โฃโ € โฃโ €

The two are not mutually exclusive, nor does one guarantee the other.โฃโ € โฃ

Overcoming ๐˜ฆ๐˜ช๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ/๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ, ๐˜ข๐˜ญ๐˜ญ-๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ-๐˜ฏ๐˜ฐ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜ฌ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ is an ongoing part of the recovery process, for me. โฃโ € โฃโ €

Thanks for reading. xoxoโฃโ € โฃโ €

P.S. ๐˜’๐˜ฎ ๐˜ด๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ญ๐˜ญ ๐˜ฑ๐˜ณ๐˜ฐ๐˜ค๐˜ฆ๐˜ด๐˜ด๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฆ๐˜ท๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ๐˜ต๐˜ด ๐˜ฐ๐˜ง ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฑ๐˜ข๐˜ด๐˜ต ๐˜ธ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฌ ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜ฌ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ข๐˜ฃ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ต ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ญ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜จ-๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ฎ ๐˜ค๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜จ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด ๐˜ want ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ฎ๐˜ข๐˜ฌ๐˜ฆ ๐˜จ๐˜ฐ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ง๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ๐˜ธ๐˜ข๐˜ณ๐˜ฅ. ๐˜’๐˜ญ๐˜ญ ๐˜ด๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ข๐˜ด ๐˜ด๐˜ฐ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ ๐˜ข๐˜ด ๐˜’๐˜ฎ ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ข๐˜ฅ๐˜บ.

I’d like to share a post by fellow mental health blogger Megan, because she has echoed a lot of what I’m experiencing from an anxiety perspective: Mental Health Monday: 7 Tips for Having Hard Conversations About Race When Youโ€™re White and Have Anxiety

I will end with this thought, which is imperfect, but my understanding of everything that’s going on is just as imperfect and constantly evolving:

4 thoughts on “Recovery Is Not About “Getting Over Your Issues”

  1. Another point to keep in mind is that if you were literally limping along, you would have gotten understanding and empathy from other people. But mental and emotional illnesses still have that stigma attached to them. If you are limping along, no one would say, “just stop limping.” But when you have anxiety, people like to say, “don’t worry about it. Just ignore it.” There’s a long way to go to change people’s perspectives.

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  2. We have all-or-none thinking a lot. The in-betweens are the middle path, the juicy majority of experience. To seeโ€”and appreciateโ€”routine experience for us is to live. No moments are ever the same and so noticing the newness would mean we were fully alive. Right now we feel mostly dead (cue Billy Crystal in Princess Bride… followed by โ€œbring out your deadโ€ from monty pythonโ€™s Holy Grail). Missed you ๐Ÿ’•

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