I used to think that if I could just “get over my issues,” I would be happy.
𝐁𝐮𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭’𝐬 𝐣𝐮𝐬𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞 “𝐡𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐢𝐥𝐲 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐚𝐟𝐭𝐞𝐫” 𝐦𝐲𝐭𝐡 𝐢𝐧 𝐚 𝐝𝐢𝐟𝐟𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐦. ⠀ ⠀
Plus, my interpretation of 𝘨𝘦𝘵𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘰𝘷𝘦𝘳 𝘮𝘺 𝘪𝘴𝘴𝘶𝘦𝘴 looked like stuffing them down inside and ploughing ahead, hiding my limping mental health. ⠀
I say 𝘭𝘪𝘮𝘱𝘪𝘯𝘨 because if I had *actually* been limping physically, I would have stopped to rest and assess. ⠀ ⠀
Not so with mental health. ⠀
Today, I no longer think it’s 𝘦𝘪𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳/𝘰𝘳. It’s not “either you have issues, 𝐨𝐫 you are happy.” It’s not “either you get over your issues, 𝐨𝐫 you remain unhappy.”⠀ ⠀
The two are not mutually exclusive, nor does one guarantee the other.⠀
Overcoming 𝘦𝘪𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳/𝘰𝘳, 𝘢𝘭𝘭-𝘰𝘳-𝘯𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨 is an ongoing part of the recovery process, for me. ⠀ ⠀
Thanks for reading. xoxo⠀ ⠀
P.S. 𝘐’𝘮 𝘴𝘵𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘤𝘦𝘴𝘴𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘰𝘧 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘱𝘢𝘴𝘵 𝘸𝘦𝘦𝘬 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘭𝘰𝘯𝘨-𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘮 𝘤𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘦𝘴 𝘐 want 𝘵𝘰 𝘮𝘢𝘬𝘦 𝘨𝘰𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘸𝘢𝘳𝘥. 𝘐’𝘭𝘭 𝘴𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘢𝘴 𝘴𝘰𝘰𝘯 𝘢𝘴 𝘐’𝘮 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘥𝘺.
I’d like to share a post by fellow mental health blogger Megan, because she has echoed a lot of what I’m experiencing from an anxiety perspective: Mental Health Monday: 7 Tips for Having Hard Conversations About Race When You’re White and Have Anxiety
I will end with this thought, which is imperfect, but my understanding of everything that’s going on is just as imperfect and constantly evolving: