How I Deal With Self-Doubt as a Shy Blogger (6 tips)

I wrote a post in January where I shared the inherent challenge in blogging about what it’s like to be shy or have social anxiety.

Basically, the thing you’re blogging about is also the thing that makes you feel like you should hold back from blogging at all. Here’s that post:

Today I wanted to share some ideas on how to shift your mindset away from self-doubt, self-consciousness, and imposter syndrome, so that you can calm some of that creative anxiety.

I hope you enjoy!

Related post: I’m Having Social Anxiety About My Social Anxiety Blog


#1. Trust that your REAL is better than your “perfect.”

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Don’t wait to share your thoughts until that fantasy moment when you finally achieve perfection…

… because that moment will never come.

Even if you get to the place you currently think of as “perfect,” your inner perfectionist will just try to move the bar higher and tell you that you’re still not good enough to relax and feel confident.

Your inner perfectionist is wrong: you are already good enough! Share your voice.


#2. Realize that other people don’t see you the way you see yourself.

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I’ve had so many people tell me how shocked they were to find out I have severe social anxiety.

They always thought I was confident and had my shit together. (HA!)

No matter how “honest” we think we are being with ourselves, there’s a very good chance we’re magnifying our own shortcomings and minimizing our strengths.

No one is tracking your ups and downs as closely as you are.

(Have you kept track of every time I’ve made a typo on this blog or shared a thought that wasn’t earth-shatteringly insightful? Almost certainly not.)

Related reading: Ashley from Mental Health @ Home recently did a post called Do Your Blog Posts Say What You Think They Do? on the potential disconnect between what we put out there and how others interpret it. Definitely worth a read!


#3. Keep in mind that you may help people without ever finding out about it.

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How often do you read a blog post without leaving a comment, even if you enjoyed the content?

That’s okay! There’s no obligation to engage with a blogger, Instagrammer, YouTuber, or any other kind of content creator. (Although it is usually appreciated!)

So if you’re ever feeling like you aren’t having an impact, just consider that for every person who does like or comment, there could be 10 more who also enjoy your post but (for whatever harmless reason) don’t interact with you.

You won’t always get to know the impact of what you put out there, but that doesn’t mean you aren’t creating value for others.


#4. Accept that you will feel self-doubt.

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Fear can co-exist with creativity and expression.

It takes courage to put yourself out there as an imperfect person. It takes strength to show vulnerability. It’s easier to conceal our soft spots, including from ourselves.

If you can learn to accept that you will feel self-doubt and stop trying to fight it, you can redirect that energy toward creating and sharing content even while feeling unsure.


#5. Think of it as joining the conversation.

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Not every post has to be epic.

You don’t have to save the world with every piece of content.

Try to create some mental space between your content and yourself. That way, you can think of creating content as contributing your thoughts to the ongoing conversation rather than baring your very soul and deepest self to the world.

Which sounds TERRIFYING even in the hypothetical.


#6. Take your own advice.

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Think of what you might tell your best friend if they confided in you and said, “My ideas are garbage. I can’t do this.”

Now tell those things to yourself, because the shy writer inside you needs a best friend, and that best friend is you.


Those are my 6 tips for putting your thoughts into the world even if you struggle with self-doubt! I hope you found them relatable.

These ideas are not (sadly) magic pills that I can just take and then go create content fearlessly. I have to work through shyness and self-doubt every day.

Some days I’m not in the right head space to even want to feel more confident (the self-sabotage struggle is real).

But they do help me: I’ve managed to put out 47 blog posts and 140+ Instagram posts since rebooting my blog and account in November 2019 (aaaaah!!!).

So, from one self-conscious creator to another: YOU CAN DO THIS!!!!!!

You don’t have to be perfect to bring value to others.

Besides. Has holding yourself back made you doubt yourself LESS? I say we might as well put ourselves out there.


What are some ways you deal with imposter syndrome and that niggling inner voice of self-doubt?

P.S. This post was partly inspired by something I shared on Instagram last Tuesday:

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This is sort of a post about 𝐢𝐦𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐬𝐲𝐧𝐝𝐫𝐨𝐦𝐞 and sort of a post about 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐝𝐬𝐞𝐭.⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ So, I'm not an expert at mental health or motherhood, yet that's what I blog and post about.⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ And I think it's because I'm coming from the perspective of an 𝐞𝐦𝐩𝐚𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐭𝐢𝐜 𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐤𝐞𝐫.⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ I feel deeply — my own emotions and those of others. And I think… and overthink… everything. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ But 𝐈 𝐝𝐨𝐧'𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐤 𝐢𝐭'𝐬 𝐚 𝐰𝐞𝐚𝐤𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐚𝐧 𝐞𝐦𝐩𝐚𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐭𝐢𝐜 𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐤𝐞𝐫.⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ I think it makes us intuitive and introspective and gives us a lot of insight to share on a range of topics!⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ That mindset helps me shush the inner voice of imposter syndrome when I'm thinking of sharing my thoughts and writing.⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ (𝘍𝘰𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘴𝘢𝘬𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘯𝘴𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘺, 𝘐 𝘴𝘵𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘴𝘵𝘳𝘶𝘨𝘨𝘭𝘦 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘪𝘮𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘵𝘦𝘳 𝘴𝘺𝘯𝘥𝘳𝘰𝘮𝘦 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘪𝘵 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘴 𝘵𝘰 𝘴𝘱𝘦𝘢𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘪𝘯 𝘢 𝘷𝘪𝘥𝘦𝘰, 𝘭𝘪𝘬𝘦 𝘪𝘯 𝘢𝘯 𝘐𝘯𝘴𝘵𝘢 𝘚𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺. 𝘉𝘶𝘵 𝘐'𝘭𝘭 𝘨𝘦𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦.)⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ So, if you're an empathetic overthinker too, you're not alone.⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ 𝐀𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐥𝐝 𝐧𝐞𝐞𝐝𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐬𝐰𝐞𝐞𝐭 𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐝! :)⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ #empath #overthinker #intuitive #impostersyndrome #impostorsyndrome #mindsetshift #healthymindset #innervoice #innercritic #introspection ⁣⁣ #selfreflection #mentalhealthblogger #guidance #theworldneedsyourstory #insight #mommyblog #raiseyourhand #contentcreator

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19 thoughts on “How I Deal With Self-Doubt as a Shy Blogger (6 tips)

  1. I don’t feel so nervous and critical about blogging, probably because I know hardly anyone reads my blog, but I have a lot of self-doubt and impostor syndrome about the novel I’m working on. That’s probably why it’s easier to get caught up in blog writing than novel writing.

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    1. I can totally understand that!!! I’ve done editing work for indie authors, and I can tell you that you are NOT alone in feeling that way. What’s your novel about? Or what genre, if you’re not ready to share plot/premise yet 🙂

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      1. It’s hard to summarise, but it’s kind of a love triangle/coming of age story about mental illness and abuse in the Orthodox Jewish community. I do worry that people from within the community will say that I’m saying all religious Jews are mentally ill or abusive or being too critical, which is not my intention, I’m just writing about what I know about, being an Orthodox Jew myself.

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        1. That sounds interesting! I can understand why you’d have those concerns, because I would probably have the same ones (but that doesn’t necessarily mean you shouldn’t do it). I guess it depends how you approach it, and if you can tolerate that niggling worry. But lots of writers publish controversial content that stirs up conversation 🙂

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  2. Thanks for sharing this! I can definitely relate. I really like what you said about how fear can coexist with creativity and expression. All writers have moments of self-doubt. I think that’s just part of being a writer. Learning to accept the feeling and keep writing and sharing anyway is so important.

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  3. I often think, when I’m being critical of myself, that if I talked to others the way I talk to myself they would be offended, insulted and hurt. Yet, we do this to ourselves all the time. We really are our own worst critics. It’s good to keep that in mind.

    Another point you made resonated with me. When I joined Toastmasters many years ago I thought that it would make me less nervous (petrified, terrified, mortified) to stand up in front of a large group of people and give a speech. I had the wrong focus. It is still petrifying, terrifying and mortifying. What Toastmasters taught me was not to overcome the nervousness, but to learn how to deal with it and carry on. That sounds like what you are saying in this blog. You are never going to be perfect, and there is never going to be the ultimate perfect moment to do something. Good enough is good enough. Or, as another saying goes, keep on keeping on.

    Six good points in this post. I enjoyed it.

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    1. Yes, exactly! It’s not always a realistic goal to “make the anxiety go away” (or self-doubt, or fear, etc.). You can often do yourself more harm than good chasing that goal.

      It’s about learning to sit with the discomfort. Not interpreting it as there being something wrong with you or what you’re doing. Just a feeling.

      Easier said than done, but also easier than chasing perfect.

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