Gettin’ Real Vulnerable & Thinky Up In Here (Also Sloths)

Getting Real Vulnerable and Thinky Up In Here (Also Sloths)

I’m just going to come right out and say it:

Me, coming right out and saying it with my eyes through the magic of the selfie.

You guys are amazing.

You, my dear sweet readers.

Whether you’re a WordPress follower, email subscriber, or free-range reader, I appreciate the time you take to read my stuff.

I’ve been getting love and support and encouragement in the comments here and on Instagram, Facebook, and by email.

Having real conversations. Getting and giving advice. And so many heart and smiley emojis.

And not to get all sad puppy on you…

(He might not actually be sad. I don’t speak puppy. I assume he would say roooof roooof.)

…but for someone who is essentially insecure about her permission to exist in this world, and certainly about her “right” to have an opinion that she repeatedly launches into the unknown abyss of the internet like an uninvited word missile…

Well let’s just say you soothe this gentle soul’s uncertain heart.

(I do realize there’s a dangerous flipside to caring so much, and that is how vulnerable it leaves me to any eventual negative responses — and it’s the internet, so there will be blood — but I’m trying to avoid any catastrophic thinking and just bask in the virtual love.)

You guys make me feel like the emotional equivalent of this GIF:

Just kidding. That’s my face when my husband says he’s taking the kids to the park for a couple of hours and then bringing home Dairy Queen and coffee.

Which has totally happened countable times.

Okay, okay, park AND Dairy Queen AND coffee didn’t all happen at the SAME TIME. But if they DID, that’s what my face would look like.

This is how you actually make me feel:

Okay lady, what’s with all the mushiness today

I’m writing this post because Blushy Ginger hit a mini-milestone last night. With WordPress followers and email subscribers combined, we’ve hit 100 subscribed readers.

I’m starting to feel like this blog may actually be a thing.

I may actually be able to help people with my words. And maybe even make them laugh along the way.

This would be the realization of a long-held, long-hidden, long-held-back dream.

And that brings me to some questions about what kind of content to zoom in on going forward.

Tell me what you want, what you really really want

A successful blog (I have been told) balances the writer’s creativity and personal message with the actual needs and wants of readers.

Because without you, this blog would just be a very fancy and colourful diary. (Which is fine if that’s the blogger’s goal, but I want to write to connect with others after a life of avoiding connection and engagement.)

I’ll obviously keep writing about social anxiety.

But there are so many ways to narrow down that theme:

  • Would it be valuable to focus on social anxiety as a mom/parent specifically?
  • Or social anxiety as it affects a marriage?
  • Social anxiety and freelancing/entrepreneurship?
  • Social anxiety and creativity?
  • Social anxiety and sexual health and wellness?
  • Disorders/conditions related to social anxiety, such as perfectionism, depression, body focused repetitive behaviours, eating disorders and body dysmorphia, and more?
  • Social anxiety versus shyness (versus introversion, versus high sensitivity)?
  • Social anxiety as it affects hermit crabs, possums, and sloths? (I don’t think it affects them much, but hey, who am I to say what torments the souls of crustaceans, marsupials, or… wait, what IS a sloth anyway? Is it a marsupial? [Hold please…] It’s a…  what the shit is this word: Xenarthran mammal… Okay… I guess that’s fine. Way to ruin my punchline though,  Xenarthran.)
  • Anxiety and high sensitivity in children?

And just how much of myself should I share?

There’s a lot to consider here, too:

  • I’m getting a lot out of the “dare to share” approach I’ve been following.
  • It’s exhilarating to remove the shackles, untie the arm behind my back, and just see what it would be like to be Very Me for a change.
  • But just how Very Me should I be? (I mistyped that as “But just how Very Me should I pee” the first time, and obviously we have to have SOME boundaries, people.)
  • At what point does reading diary-style, lay-it-all-out posts become old hat?
Old. Hat.
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Here’s my vision for this blog

Connection. Comfort. Relatability. Humour.

I want the time you spend here to benefit you just as much as it benefits me.

I would truly love to hear what kind of content you would enjoy reading as I build this cozy little online hermit cave for us to meet up in from time to time.

There are lots of ways to reach me:

  • In the comments
  • By email me (blushygingersadie [at] gmail.com) — I’m a little slower with email but I’ll always reply
  • On Instagram (@blushyginger) — I’m very active on Instagram; it’s where I post less polished stuff and interact with lots of like-minded folks ๐Ÿ™‚
  • Through my Facebook page or on Twitter (@blushyginger) — I’m not sure I’ll keep these two accounts long-term, since I don’t really know what I’m doing on there and it seems a little overkill to have all of these accounts, but they’re both contact options for now

That’s it for today, you lovely blogophiles!

(Yep, still need to work on pet names.)

The most excited wave in the world, coming to your face.

Thank you for reading!

26 thoughts on “Gettin’ Real Vulnerable & Thinky Up In Here (Also Sloths)

  1. Yay for 100 followers! I think out of any possible follower numbers, 100 is the coolest, because like you say, that’s when it starts to look official that your blog is a thing.

    I say write about any of those topics and be Very You because your readers will realize how fabulous you are and they’ll be willing to read anything you write. Well, maybe except stuff about pee, and then you’d just have me reading, because I don’t believe in TMI.

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    1. HAHAHA your comments never cease to almost make me giggle-pee.

      I don’t believe in TMI either, and since I’ve spent so long keeping a leash on expressing myself, it’s hard to recalibrate to sharing my thoughts without swinging the pendulum completely the other way and just serving up steaming cups of urine prose.

      (Thanks, Ashley. Your support means a lot. xoxo)

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  2. Congratulations on reaching that milestone! That is huge! You are obviously hitting some relevant targets out there. Your list of possible topics would be of interest to me, as a way to learn more about what people are experiencing in their day to day lives with social anxiety. You wondered about animals with social anxiety. It’s a thing. We had a dog named Molly who had severe social anxiety, which manifested itself very clearly at the dog park. She was also quite disturbed when anyone entered the house, prompting her to go into an unstoppable barking fit. (Don’t ever start doing that….). I’m enjoying your posts and am learning a lot. Keep it coming.

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    1. Thank you!!! For the sake of clarity/transparency, the “follower count” on the blog shows 85, because it doesn’t account for email followers. But I am STILL counting this as a milestone. I’ll just get to RE-celebrate when the ticker hits 100 too. ๐Ÿ˜‰

      Between Ashley’s pee talk and your warnings to avoid barking fits, I’m starting to construct a very hilarious image of my blogger persona.

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  3. Although it’s corny, I really think you should really write about the things you want to write about and where you have stuff to say, because you’re the one who has to write the posts. If it doesn’t interest you, you aren’t going to be able to keep blogging long-term.

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    1. This is very true, and not at all corny. I appreciate your thoughts. I guess I’m trying to find that sweet spot where my interests overlap with readers’ curiosities. But maybe it’s just a matter of continuing to experiment and grow. ๐Ÿ™‚

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  4. TELL US HOW TO LIVE!!

    Or post combinations of how-to and how-i-do because we learn from example (originally auto-corrected to โ€œfried chickenโ€) and repetition. ๐Ÿ‡จ๐Ÿ‡ฆ๐Ÿ’ฏ (alicorn=winged unicorn?)

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