“Scientists have found the gene for shyness. They would have found it years ago, but it was hiding behind a couple of other genes.”
—JONATHAN KATZ , COMEDIAN
Dec 13 update: This post has been gently tweaked as I continue to figure out this blogging thing.
Let’s go around the room and introduce ourselves! (Cue nausea.)
*nervous throat clearing*
Um, hi. I’m Sadie. I’m a mom and I like to powerlift and, um…
*activate blush-and-rush mode*
Okay but for real this time
My name actually is Sadie and I do like to powerlift.
I spent most of my life thinking I was just “cursed with crippling shyness.” That was until about a year and a half ago, when I finally went through a formal diagnosis process to figure out what the hell was making me feel so… wrong. In my mind, in my body.
The diagnosis was that I was dealing with more than just a case of shyness overload:
- Social anxiety
- Generalized anxiety
But the good news is that through mental health work and lifting heavy things at the gym, I have come a long way since that diagnosis. I’m stronger now than I’ve ever been, inside and out.
A big part of this journey has been removing my own blinders and seeing how fucking strong I already am, how resilient and brave I’ve been all along, without giving myself enough credit.
I am shy, but I don’t consider that a “problem.” It’s just a personality trait. Social anxiety disorder is NOT a personality trait.Tweet
Does any of this hit home for you?
Maybe you’re just starting out your mental health journey. Maybe you’ve been wondering if it’s “normal” to feel so unsettled inside your own body and mind. Maybe you’ve just always been shy and are tired of feeling like it’s a flaw. If any of this hits home for you, know that you’re not alone.
And know that you are NOT weak.
(We have to be strong, just to get through all the silly ice breaker games and crowded buses and torturous Costco excursions and countless other human-filled moments of the day.)
Blushy Ginger: My vision
I want this to be a place you can come to learn a little, laugh a little, and feel a little bit less alone on this winding journey toward recognizing your own inherent awesomeness.
I’m not a mental health professional and I’m not even sure I’m a success story. I’m a work in progress who has come a heck of a long way in learning about shyness, social anxiety, self-acceptance and body acceptance, and wants to help you find your next steps forward too.
And by “steps forward,” I don’t mean “getting over your shyness,” necessarily. Shyness is not inherently bad. What I mean is finding a way to accept who you are, and going from there.
I hope you’ll consider subscribing below. 🙂
Stay tuned for the next post coming soon:
6 Things I’d Tell My Shy Younger Self About Mental Health and Self-Acceptance