There are plenty of Very Authoritative Articles providing clinical descriptions of cognitive distortions, and they are of course extremely valuable. But given that Very Authoritative Articles are generally not my jam (I prefer honey anyway) (with butter) (it's heresy to have honey without butter), I decided to explain the distortions from the perspective of a person who often experiences them.
I think it's rooted in fear. Fear of rejection, fear of conflict, fear of disapproval. Fear of losing control over myself. Fear of what others might think if they meet the Unfiltered Me -- because I don't even know who that is.
Many of us are so much more loving and compassionate to our friends—even to strangers—than we are to ourselves.
Is there an inherent irony or contradiction in sharing your struggles with social anxiety online? If not, why do I find it so much easier to publish my experience into the void than to go out among the humans and have real-life people interactions? I have a theory.
Exciting news!!! My first-ever guest post has appeared on the Mental Health @ Home site!
Medication is not a magic cure-all. For me, it's what lets me function well enough to do the deeper work, like therapy, and the physical stuff, like exercise. And sleep. And that's pretty amazing in my opinion.
Shyness and social anxiety can be confusing from the inside, so I can imagine they must be even more puzzling and vague for friends and loved ones.
It can be hard to always be the one initiating. To always be coaxing us out into your world, out of our caves, through the anxiety mist and what if confetti.
Possums are adorable if you look at their body segments individually, but puzzling if taken as a whole. I admire this strange effect.
2019 was the year I became aware of terms like body positivity, body neutrality, body acceptance, and intuitive eating. Over the past year, I've slowly given up on believing the "high" I used to get from the restriction phase. And I finally understood that whenever I restricted, the pendulum would always, eventually swing back the other way, to the free-for-all/bingeing part of the cycle.